My changing beliefs as Coach


In my last blog I had said that when your beliefs become bigger than what they should be, you need to let them go. I also said that we need to let go of things that stop us from being free to look at things with new perspective. The impact of carrying things in us and making it a part of us keeps us away from the possibilities that are there at that moment.

Beliefs are of two kinds, ones that are limiting and ones that are empowering. Beliefs that elevate our self-image are our empowering beliefs. These beliefs help us accept the change happening around us and helps us participate in the change. As we open up to these beliefs, we experience new possibilities, new opportunities, new potential and creativity.

The beliefs that limit us, root from our insecurities. These insecurities tend to grow within us over the years as a result of our experiences, the unpopular ones. Beliefs are also shaped up by people around us.

When I was young I used to hear my elders say ‘Lie that is said to save others is not a lie’. With time, ‘saving others’ became equivalent to not hurting others’ feelings. If I disagree with their opinions, will I be accepted? Acceptance became more important than anything…these became my changing beliefs.

Is answer more important than the method?

The journey of Coaching has helped me find the method to the answer and not the answer itself. I think I have found my golden axe to sharpen my thoughts and the methods of finding the answer.

Share your views or join me for a conversation, will be happy to help…...

Comments

  1. Shalu AhujaAugust 5, 2020 at 5:31 AM

    So well articulated, I loved reading and re reading this.

    Thanks Tapas for sharing beautiful piece of art and science.. how talks of little world have power to spin invisible threads that has power to trip adults down.

    Being self aware and self responsible is the key to find those invisible threads and shatter them ... and also an obligation to lit self awareness in next generation

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  2. ketamrita :)August 5, 2020 at 4:49 PM

    My world started to change when I got aware of the power of these beliefs and the magic they do. Can resonate very well!

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  3. Vikas DuaAugust 5, 2020 at 9:56 PM

    Excellent share, Tapas! True, coaching is like that axe that can help shape us into better professionals, parents, friends, siblings, and most importantly, better human beings!

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  4. Ajay BhardwajAugust 6, 2020 at 7:03 AM

    I am not the body, I am not even the mind"
    What helps me greatly in opening doors to many mysteries in my personality is self observation and Introspection. Its an interesting game to observe yourself in action and truly discover what is driving one's behavior in a certain environment. How much of the trigger is external to us and how much lies with in us. How the foundations of those triggers ( beliefs) are so deep that we start identifying ourselves with them and somewhere these beliefs start defining us.
    In fact these beliefs are nothing but the baggage we have collected on the journey of life, they are not ME.
    Like everything else in this world these too are not permanent. Each one of them helped us to cope with a situation at that time when they had started taking root in our minds. Its like that favorite toy, lucky pencil or favorite blanket which helped us in our childhood to cope with so many situations. Many of them are long gone and some of them lie dormant and some day come flooding back to us on the waves of nostalgia. With a smile we meet them like meeting a lost friend and after a brief chat keep going on our respective paths.
    Its introspection which helps us to chart out our path and allows us to choose such companion beliefs which will serve us well to face the challenges of life. Process is as natural as the passage of time as long as we are alert and are ready to see!
    Thank you Tapas for sharing this note it helped to think. I believe you as a coach are teaching , among other things, people to introspect and observe which will help them greatly to find their own solutions.

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  5. RAHUL BASWANIAugust 6, 2020 at 7:20 AM

    Thought provoking!

    Self limiting beliefs for the owner only show their true nature in hindsight. In the moment, and by ones own self- it is not possible to recognize the inhibiting impact.

    Every belief needs examination for expiry dates...

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  6. UnknownAugust 6, 2020 at 9:27 PM

    Brilliant Tapas. Our beliefs keep changing to suit our own ideologies..

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  7. Swamy ReddyAugust 11, 2020 at 12:04 AM

    Straight to the point and well captured thought. Provides a perspective for shaping up what you want and where you wan to be. Simple yet effective. Keep inspiring with such nice writing.

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  8. UnknownSeptember 13, 2020 at 7:51 AM

    Very nice and original thoughts. There are so many phrases that caught my attention. And the last one, "I have found my golden axe to sharpen my thoughts and the methods of finding an answer" is deep..

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